Monday, October 3, 2011
Emily, Kai Xuan, Jing Jie, Weihong
“Tick. Tock. Tick. Tock.” Desperate seconds ticked pass. The big analog clock hung high on the bare wall stared down at me, scorning me with every movement of its second hand, its steady chant caused my brains to pulse in pain. Oh! I felt a drop of sweat trickling down my forehead and then my left cheek, finally landing on my tongue.”Yuck, salty and sour. Could that be my fate? Nothing good ever comes from a trip to the principal.” A voice in my mind told me, “could I have done something wrong? Maybe, just maybe, it was... “Most likely not”, a second voice whispered. Just then, the head of a Felis domestica popped out at the window. Its head slowly turned and looked inside the room, as if it were examining the contents of the waiting room. Its eyes came to rest on me, its shining eyes piercing my naked soul. I shut my eyes in anticipation of the mockery and shame that I predicted was coming. The cat then mewed softly, a sound that days ago would have been reassuring, but now seemed to be like a prayer for mercy. I immediately turned and looked away, feeling a immense sense of dread of the impending doom. There came a feeling of tension slowly building up and up. Suddenly, the heavy wooden door slammed open, and I awaited my fate...
Done by: Vorro, Wen Yue, Hao Yang, & Wai Hang
I picked up the note with trembling fingers. The paper crackled as i touched it. I instantly recognized the handwriting on the note was none other than that of my boss. What matter could be so serious, that the boss himself had to personally write a letter to me? A single phrase came out of my mouth: “I am so dead”. Subconsciously, my mind searched for a probable answer as to why he wanted to see me. Did he catch me for playing tetris during work hours? Cold sweat dripped from my forehead. That was a good enough reason to fire me already! Or was it because he found out about my fake illnesses? I could almost hear him scolding me! Wow, that would be horrible!
Or maybe I was getting a promotion? Well, I had been working hard, despite the occasion that I played tetris. If so, this is good news! I would tell my wife about it! Imagine how happy she’d be. If I did get promoted, my dad would also be so proud of me. And with that positive attitude, I almost literally skipped over to my bosses’ office. Imagine the satisfied grins on their faces, that would be so good.
Sunday, July 24, 2011
Some negative impacts include having parents who they themselves, are bad influences. Some parents might be drug addicts or even into gambling. Such an environment will make the child develop a mindset that these activities are correct and thus are negatively influenced by the child's parents. A major group of people who come into contact with the child on a daily basis are his friends. If the child is unfortunate and makes friends with bad companies, the child will again receive negative influences.
However, it is still possible for the child to break free from these negative influences. Most importantly, the child must have a lot of courage as well as willpower. At a even bigger scale, it is possible for the child to change the mindset of those who display negative thinking. As long as the child can differentiate between the right and wrong, there is still hope.
Telling others what is right and wrong is a form of having positive influences on others. It does not take big acts to have a positive impact on others, but even small acts like lending a hand when someone is in need can influence others positively. However, do not overdo it by trying to help everyone in everything they do by knowing your limits. Sometimes you might just worsen the situation without knowing when helping them.
In conclusion, displaying positive influences is an important trait that everyone should have, and it does not take a lot to change the mindset of those displaying negative influences, just a little courage and willpower will do.
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Intensive reading question : Chicken Soup for the teenage soul , Chapter 2: Hurting Myself [ Emily Wu _ 02 ]
One can never be 100% comfortable with yourself. Even if I feel so, that is only temporary. Everyday I am constantly challenged with situations that I will struggle with. As a result, I feel a bit depressed as I knew I could have done better. This pressurise me and I am plagued with why am I not perfect? Why can't I do better?
To combat this awkwardness, I try to deceive myself about some of my good traits. However, I constantly remind myself that the high expectations of this world can push me outside my boundaries and excel. I set myself goals and give myself a deadline to achieve. One cannot change himself overnight, this change happens slowly without obvious difference in character. Therefore, I am just myself and will not change for other people but for the overall benefit of myself.
I want to challenge the question what is fitting in. Means that you are popular and everyone respect you and you are backed up be your friends? This is actually a reliance on people, once you lose your friends you are very vulnerable. I prove myself that I do not need dependence on other people, I can survive whether I am in a crowd of people and whether I am alone.
I guess in life you can choose a limited set of things and I choose freedom- not to be control or dictated by people. Some people are unconsciously prisoners of the world. People like celebrities whose lives are always under scrutiny by public. I don't need that, you will only realise how much you want freedom if you are locked up unable to move.
I appreciate the better and thus there is no reason I should hurt myself. One can only love other people if one love themselves.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
I am quite comfortable with myself as I accept that fact that I am not perfect. Everyone is flawed, and I try to accept my flaws and improve on them. Also, I try to focus on my strengths instead of harping on my weaknesses the whole time. I also learn to be contented, it is not possible for me to have everything I wish to have. Some people wish for popularity, to fit in, or to be the perfect student/role model. However, I feel that that is the root cause of not being comfortable with yourself. Thus, I ensure I do not hurt myself by being contented with what I have, and try to be more optimistic.
How I deal with pressure to achieve or be the perfect student?
In SST, sometimes I do find the pressure to achieve quite overwhelming, as all the students are doing quite well, and there is competition to achieve good grades. Also, the things we learnt in class are sometimes more advanced, and it is hard to achieve good grades under the circumstances. However, even though I really want to achieve good grades, I do not push myself beyond the breaking point. I try not to let the pressure build up too much, and occasionally I do take breaks from studying and just relax doing my favourite things. When I do underachieve, I try not to punish myself too hard and just put in more effort for the next assignment and test. Thus, I feel that balancing the need to achieve and the leniency is very important in order to deal with pressure to achieve or be the perfect student.
I am comfortable with myself ad I feel that I am me, and no one can change that fact. With being yourself, there is always something you are good at, no matter what and how many weaknesses you have. No matter what, I can face the fact that I am not perfect, like everyone else. And I strongly accept that.
I can ensure that I dont hurt myself by knowing my limits and not to overexert myself during activites I know that I am not too good in. Also, I have to understand that Im not perfect and i have limits. Mostly, if I ever feel stressed and feel like hurting myself, whether physically or emotionally, I can consult many of my friends and relatives as I am sure they can help me. I find that sharing your problems is the way to go.
I am very comfortable with myself as I feel that at the end of the day, other's opinion does not affect you a lot, but it is how you accept and look at these opinions. When others give bad opinions about you, it is your choice whether or not you want to change, or just ignore it. So I feel that as long as I am being myself, I am comfortable with myself, but at the same time, also put into consideration of other people.
I ensure I do not hurt myself by knowing what is right or wrong; safe or dangerous. I would reject someone else if they tell me to do things that may bring harm whether physically or emotionally. By knowing what is right or wrong, I am able to interprete what others tell me to do more clearly. I can also learn to forgive and forget, thus some troubles would not accumulate within myself.
Monday, July 11, 2011
Honestly, I am a little bit uncomfortable with myself as I find that I have too many flaws in me. These flaws are often brought up in my everyday life, and though it comforts me to know that I do have some very good qualities, it it not everyday I get to show those qualities. That is why, at every opportunity I get, I will have to make full use of it and show the best of myself and get recognized for the best in me.
As for my flaws, thought I have mentioned that I have many, I do not feel upset about it or cry about it as I know that I still have time to change myself. I am still young, and still have many years ahead of me, and if I can make full use of it, I will definitely become a better person and greatly reduce the number of flaws in me. I do not seek to perfect myself, just good enough for most people around me.
Personally, I don't see the point of hurting oneself when one is faced with too many problems in life. Will the hurt caused get rid of all those problems? As long as you don't do anything about it, you will always face that problem. Thus I see no need in hurting oneself when we can just settle that problem by facing it head on. For me, when I have such problems, I speak to people. My parents, my friends, my teachers, as long as someone is willing to listen, I don't mind who I speak to about my problems.
Saturday, July 9, 2011
Thursday, July 7, 2011
I feel that if people are depressed or experiencing any difficulties that they cannot handle themselves, they should go and consult a counselor as soon as possible. If they do not understand something, they should seek help from an adult, and it would be best if they consult their parents so that the next time they face a problem, they would know how to overcome it as well.
Another thing they can do is that to spill out all their problems to a friend whom they can trust. Once they do that, their heart would not feel so heavy and they would be in a better mood. But if they can handle the issue well, then they can go ahead to solve the problem and if they need something to calm them down, they can listen to music they like.
The reason why people have depression, loneliness, heartbreaks... etc is because people cannot handle life properly. We always think that we are pushed to the limit psychologically, but in reality the things that we do in everyday life like issues with studies, friendship and work are just touching the tip of the iceberg.
Think about seeing the problems in a macro view, there are a lot more people struggling with life. What people do not know is they try to conceal their fear in front of other people. This builds up tremendous amount of stress, once we reach our breaking point, things will spiral out of control.
I think having a positive mindset can really pull yourself out of the bottomless pit of fiery tarnation that you yourself had sunken in by your own actions. One very powerful technique to use is having a set of principles in life. For example: You eat to live, not live to eat. One should not take things for granted in life and keep on thinking everyone around you owe you something, instead give back and give back, show you care about those people who have problems. If you can help someone with something, chances are they are going to help you when you are in trouble.
Things can go overboard once people get obsessed with it, we must have a mind alarm that warn us of danger. If the main characters in the book Chicken Soup always think – I must toughen up, I must toughen up, I must be stronger than everyone physically and mentally. I think that is very wrong, although toughening up gives you the edge and advantage, however, it drives people to have evil thoughts, people will then start backstabbing each other, people will intentionally harm each other in order to survive. This is morally wrong.
In conclusion, we humans are social beings. If we live in this world, we must interact with people. If everyone can live in harmony, it can certainly bring more peace and prosperity to the world. Think about why people start wars, torture people and initiate homicide. Why bring destruction if you cannot bring construction?
What are your thoughts and feelings about being depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? Ho
Depression, loneliness, heartbreaks and being different are all painful and terrible experiences. All those are caused by different things and can bring about different effects. People often isolate themselves once they have depression or the other experiences as mentioned as they feel that they are under-appreciated or not noticed by others but is afraid to speak up or stand out maybe because of some of the reactions they get. Thus, because of that, they become socially awkward and often have to deal with it alone.
Whenever I have problems of such, I would try to find a friend/teacher/parents to speak to as I will be able to let people know what is wrong and once they know, they can help me cope with my problems and that is a good solution to those problems.
What are your thoughts and feelings about being depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? How do/would you deal with some of these issues.
I feel that these emotions are often faced by the teenagers. As they are going through puberty, they might think the the "children world" is too childish, and the "adult world" is to different to understand. Because of this, they feel lonely and not understood.
One could consult a friend or a trustworthy adult and ask for their opinion and solutions. Listening to music also helps a lot.
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
As for results of depression, loneliness and heartbreaks, I feel that this can cause a lot of stress for the one experiencing it. He/she may not be able to find a solution to his/her emotions and may even generate negative thoughts/emotions. This, if not diagnosed and treated psychologically over a period of time, may cause the problem to elevate and therefore create more stress and problems, to the extent that he/she does things harming himself/herself or others. And what would be more vicious is that though it may seem that he/she looks fine, it could be that the problems of depression, loneliness and heartbreaks are actually affecting him/her really bad deep inside, though no one else knows and does nothing about it.
Being different from peers would be another issue. In my own opinion, I feel that how it affects the person would really depend on him/her as an individual – whether he/she treats/recognizes this as something positive or negative. Besides, it would also have to depend on what the environmental surroundings and reactions of the peers are. So, positively, the fact on being different from peers would not really affect the individual at all as he/she would not care about the problem (as the peers also don’t mind). Negatively on the hand, being different from peers can actually cause the problem of isolation for the peers. And as mentioned in the book ‘Chicken Soup for the Teenage Soul’, isolation can result in many psychological problem for the victim (this could be due to whether peers accept/reject the person due to differences).
For ‘having a front’ as a problem, I think that doing this is actually not being one’s ‘true self’. This can most likely happen for those who appear “weird” or “unnatural” etc. in different occasions. They may be the ones most criticized by others and may also have other problems such as depression, loneliness, heartbreaks and being different from peers. What most from the rest of the world does not understand is that they are only trying to do this so that they can ‘fit in’ or ‘be accepted’ into the community (though this can often make it worse for other people’s perspective on them).
For me, back in primary school, I used to think that all these problems such as depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front are just part of daily life. I won’t usually mind if people try to hurt me every single day, whether physically or mentally. I just lived through those. But over time, after getting into secondary school, I started to recognize this as a problem. Though this may sound good, but it soon resulted me in getting emotional at times and being unable to control. Back then, I would cry uncontrollably (even if I did NOT want to), in front of everyone in usually inappropriate situations. After that (you can now see the problem progress as it was not treated), there was a period of time where I got into a mode where I started hurting myself and others. Now? Whenever I meet with some of this issues, I would try to solve it. If I really cannot take it, I would just sleeeep (as it makes you forget about the problem and feel better about it when you wake up).
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
Such feelings such as depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from one's peers as well as putting up a front are caused by certain events that most teenagers face nowadays. These feelings may be likely caused by things such as exam stress or relationships between two person. Some of these people try to put up a strong front and deceive others, but in the end they are actually deceive themselves. The more they put up a strong front, the more hurt they will get as the others around will not know of how he or she actually feels. This is why I think that one should learn to let go and not bear too many grudges against other people. They should learn how to perceive the happenings in another way, in other words, not be narrow-minded. If one learns to let go of some things that does not go according as planned, so such feelings such as depression would not form. Even if perceiving the situation in another does not help, he or she should not try and shut the problems away. This is because it can easily cause depression, or even trigger dissociative identity disorder, which is formed as another personality of oneself that has memories of something bad that happens. This split personality will display behaviors that are mostly destructive. This is why I think it is important to effective deal with these issues as quickly as possible, thus preventing one from getting such feelings like depression or loneliness.
I feel that depression, loneliness, heartbreaks and being different from your peers are a part of daily life of a young teenager. These are all factors that shape our behavior and attitude towards life. However, i think that it is actually how we react against these problems that shape us. For example, a lonely person may feel sad that he is left alone by others and are trapped in their own social circles, while some people may change for the better good in order to expand their social circles. This shows that some people will rise up in the face of adversity and continue to move on in life, while some people are unable to continue and are stuck there forever, trapped within the limitations that they had unknowingly set for themselves.
We should not put up a front against our dear ones, as they would be able to help you or relieve you of your stress. It also enables other people to understand us more easily, and improve our social life. It is also understood that not all people are able to fit in and make many friends, therefore, we should be content for who we are and what we are, and focus on improving our own lives instead of trying to imitate another individual's personalities and traits in order to accomplish our motives.
I deal with those issues by relaxing and spending time thinking on how can i overcome them
I feel that those are things that are commonly felt especially within teenagers our age. The cause of those is mostly because of isolation of a particular person. Due to the fact that the person has no one to confide in, like an emotional basket case, he/she thus suffer from depression.
I would deal with these issues by confiding in someone, for example, a school counsellor or a trusted friend.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Intensive reading question : Chicken Soup for the teenage soul , Chapter 1: Emotional Basket Case [ Emily Wu _ 02 ]
I feel that depression, loneliness, heartbreaks and being different from your peers, and having to put up a front are all commonly experienced by teenagers about my age. I feel that the others, besides depression, are very common among us. For special cases, like those people that have depression, it is probably that the student feels that they are not accepted into society because off a difference in attitude.
Being experienced with these issues as many of my peers have went through these problems before, I would take a bold approach towards this problem. Even though I might be difficult in the beginning, I feel that it is necessary to speak up to others, especially to your friends and family so they can help you with the current problems you are facing and give you advice. Also, if you are facing loneliness, talk more to others, so that you can cure yourself.
I feel that everyone would go through depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, experience being different from his/her peers and have to put up a front. However, it is how we manage and conquer these issues that determines how much we are affected by these issues. Some of us take this as the norm and move on even after facing it, however, there are others that are stuck and admit defeat in the face of some these issues.
Depression comes about most of the time, when a person does not accept himself/herself. But by just launching into a state of depression, nothing will be solved. Heartbreaks are a major part of teenagers’ lives, and so is loneliness and being different from your peers. The need for best friends and to fit in always will not be achievable for many, and thus we need to learn to be contented and to accept that everyone is unique in their own way.
There is no one fixed solution to dealing with this problems, but I know that I am special, and I will not surrender when faced with these issues, because it is all part of life, all part of the process for us to strengthen and to improve.
They are things many teenagers have to deal with, and can be a result of being ignored, betrayed or maybe bullied by your peers and friends.
Feelings of depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different, and having to put up a front is a normal part of any teenager's life. In his or her growing years, a teenager tend to feel different as compared to when he or she was a child as he or she would be trying to cope with the newly-perceived selfish society. Children perceive the world as innocent and straight forward, having the "I am no different from you" mentality due to the limited options they have. However, as teenagers, we will tend to branch out into our own interests.
Dealing with these problems is no easy task. I know that I'm different—it took some time to understand that. The natural reaction will be to try to blend in and pretend nothing is wrong, but that is never perfect. I stand out a lot, and reveal my feelings. Hence I got use to it, and soon understand that there is nothing wrong with feeling so.